Dooley Noted: 12/20/2013
One can go to great depths to hang on to a shred of past connection with someone.
If one person does not want to maintain the connection, one person alone cannot pump life into it.
Maybe it’s a former best friend.
Maybe it’s a sibling.
Maybe it’s a former love.
Whatever the connection, one can reach out and attempt to give CPR to a lost connection.
I’ve learned it seldom works.
If a connection is worth having, both parties have to be on board. And if they are not, the lost connection must be let go. If one attempts to revive it, the other must want to be revived.
If the connection is gone, it’s like giving CPR to a corpse. You waste a ton of energy for something not able to be revived.
And it’s okay. Breathe, and you’re okay. Inhale how thankful you were to have them. Exhale, and let them go.
Letting go of a lost connection is actually quite healthy. Living in the past is not forward movement.
By all means, stay your course. Do what you believe to be consistent with staying the course.
I know I have no free time to give CPR to lost connections, when so many people around me are helping me to breathe and succeed.
But as always, it’s your call.
– Dr. Kathy Dooley