Dooley Noted: 1/1/2014
I have loved with every inch of my heart.
I was honored to devote myself for 6 years to a man that changed my life.
He texted me last night at midnight wishing me a Happy New Year. Through our time and space apart, we are still connected by the holiday that brought us together.
1/1/2000: The beginning of this millennium.
I am proud of the adults we became – a man and woman that shared a beautiful love and were able to stay connected as that love changed into something we didn’t expect.
My more defensive friends meet this consistent friendship with guarding. Why would a couple with such a devastating end still have love to give?
This is the problem with how love is often viewed. It doesn’t end if a breakup occurs. It has no off and on switch. It’s like energy – consistently morphing and changing form, but never meeting it’s demise.
For the few minutes after his text, I let myself reminisce on those 6 years. I smiled deep into my core, as I realize I am the woman I am today because I love that man – and allowed the love to change at its pace.
I can’t really recall what the love was like in the past. I only have memories, which are much like dreams – only with eye witnesses.
But I know this: the capacity to give and receive love in all its forms? That’s heaven here on earth.
Labeling it gets challenging. Feeling it and appreciating its metamorphosis will preserve you – and make you thrive.
So, if you have a heavy heart today, you can flip the script. Make your life easier. Let love morph as it will. You can start the New Year with a new approach to love that is much like life – constantly changing and helping you survive and thrive.
But as always, it’s your call.
– Dr. Kathy Dooley