Dooley Noted: 10/4/2014
My schedule is intense. I’m the first to admit it.
I don’t really expect anyone to keep up.
Somehow, I found myself hurt that my mother couldn’t.
I let her know that it bothered me, that she couldn’t keep up with what I was doing.
I unintentionally hurt her feelings by telling her so. So she worked hard to try.
She scrambled to keep up, even keeping a “Jo Calendar,” her own dedicated wall calendar of where I was on a regular basis.
She said to me yesterday, “I’m sorry that it’s so hard for me to keep up.”
It hit me like a kettlebell to the chest.
It was ridiculous to ask her to keep up with me. I can barely keep up with my own schedule!
All she needs to do is love me. And she’s great at it.
The people around us don’t need to memorize every detail of our lives to love us.
They love us in spite of the details.
As always, it’s your call.
– Dr. Kathy Dooley