Dooley Noted: 10/25/2014
Students and patients can be demanding.
In the quest for knowledge and help, they can forget to provide respect to their colleagues and educators.
A few days ago, I was particularly floored by a brilliant student.
During midterm time, stress is at a zenith. And these students know stress. They have a demanding 12 hour school day and study before and after school.
Expectations are high. And failure isn’t an option.
No matter the stress level, I noticed that this student always respectfully calls me over. She always thanks me before I leave. She gives me her full attention and asks me questions only when she can’t find the answers for herself.
One of the most significant parts of being a professional is learning what a factor politeness plays.
Professionalism isn’t born. It’s earned and learned.
If you feel like you get limited respect at work or school, you have to consider what you dole out in return.
Perhaps avoiding these types of phrases:
“I know more than the teacher knows.”
“My doctor doesn’t know anything. That advice is stupid.”
“My boss is a jerk.”
You can work on flipping your mindset to a professional one, like with these changes:
“The teacher has limitations, but I can learn this and this.”
“My doctor gave this advice. I’m not in agreement but I’m researching my options.”
“My boss is assertive. While the personality is difficult for me, I can learn this and this.”
Try out a change in your language and delivery of respect on the behalf of others.
People that give respect get respect, Professionalism is a two way street.
As always, it’s your call.
– Dr. Kathy Dooley