Dooley Noted: 4/6/2015
I used to be a brat.
I used to assume I knew what was best for other people.
Fresh out of school, I’d offer advice without them asking.
Then, I was shocked when they had a negative response to my suggestions.
I learned this lesson for the final and most significant time with my father.
I used to give him unsolicited advice, like a brat who thought she knew what was best.
It never worked. So, I stopped.
Then, something magical happened.
He started asking ME for advice.
I realized how ineffective it was to shove my ideas in someone’s face.
After all, when the student is ready, the teacher appears.
Even if you are a qualified practitioner or expert at your technique, be careful with offering unsolicited advice.
If the student isn’t ready or open to receive the knowledge, he or she will deny it.
Also, keep in mind that they may be under the care of other practitioners.
And we know what is said about too many cooks.
Consider keeping advice to yourself until someone requests it.
Or, prepare for unwilling people not to take the unsolicited advice.
As always, it’s your call.
– Dr. Kathy Dooley