Dooley Noted: 6/25/2015
On Monday and Tuesday, I was very stressed about the idea of time.
I was rushing like a mad woman, trying to make deadlines.
Then, last night, proof arrived to show me that time is not the least bit linear.
All it took was a call from an old friend.
Despite the 14-hour workday, I had no qualms at all about staying up very late to talk to my friend.
I was shuttled back to 2009, when my friend and I were very close.
Although my life has moved dramatically since then, I was stifled when he asked about the last six years.
I couldn’t think of a single thing to say about myself that had relevance.
Catching up is never easy.
So, I briefly recapped my resume.
I realized how trivial it sounded.
After all, what we always wanted was for each other to be happy.
And that’s all that mattered.
We both are.
I truly believe that happiness is not living in the past, feeling depressed. And it’s not living in the future, feeling anxious.
Happiness lies in between – when you live totally in the present.
The only way to live in the present is to forgive and move into each moment you’re gifted.
Until talking to him, I didn’t realize how much my friend affected my present life.
I feel no ill feelings about the way things worked out. That’s not my current style anyway.
The only way to thank him was to keep following the path he helped me pave.
He isn’t a part of my past. He’s part of what shaped me in the present time.
You can believe time exists, leaving yourself open to feeling depressed about the past or anxious about the future.
Or, you can understand there is no past nor present at all – and the only moment you have is this one.
As always, it’s your call.
-Dr. Kathy Dooley
